A Response to Anonymous Criticism

Edit/Update: Since this was first published, I’ve refined my responses and added more context. If you’ve already read the original, it’s worth revisiting—especially now that I’ve made it abundantly clear exactly who this “anonymous” commenter is and why they’re so desperate to silence me.

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In the wake of my recent blog post on the systemic failures of psychiatric care in Québec (read it here), an “anonymous” commenter left a venomous message—one riddled with personal details that made it unmistakably clear they know me well. This wasn’t just any troll; it was someone who has caused me significant harm in the past and is now masquerading as a concerned onlooker. Spoiler alert: she doesn’t want me to heal—she wants me to stay silent so I don’t expose the full extent of what she did to me.

I’m no stranger to gaslighting and victim-blaming, but when it comes from someone who has already inflicted deep wounds, I refuse to let it stand. This response isn’t just about defending myself—it’s about confronting those who exploit survivors’ pain, weaponize “concern,” and scramble to cover their tracks when the truth starts to surface.

Survivors deserve understanding, not judgment. Anger isn’t instability—it’s strength. Below is the comment I received, dismantled section by section, so you can see exactly what gaslighting from a guilty conscience looks like.

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So many people have tried telling you to manage your feelings of rage by practicing relaxation techniques and mindfulness. Many well-wishing followers are trying to help you get grounded to ease your pain.

Oh, bless. I do practice relaxation techniques, which I learned from my father—may he rest in peace—as a very young child. I have for years. Funny how people assume they know what goes on in my daily life simply from my online presence. You don’t see the hours I spend meditating, walking Stella, or journaling through my emotions. Do you know the Balance App? They offer a free trial and I heartily recommend you sign up for it too. I have a lifetime subscription because it’s that wonderful. Also, if you were genuinely concerned, you’d know that dismissing someone’s justified anger as “rage” is gaslighting 101. But you know that already, don’t you?

And so many people—especially fellow survivors of abuse and trauma—have stood by me, understanding that healing is not a linear path paved with scented candles and generic platitudes. To those who genuinely care and offer support with compassion, I am deeply grateful. But let’s be clear: not every suggestion is helpful, and not every critic is well-meaning. My pain is real, and I have every right to express it without being patronised or silenced.

Managing your anger by releasing it doesn’t mean forgetting your past hurts; it means taking care of yourself. It’s about controlling your thoughts and feelings before they control you. It seems like it may already be too late.

Ah, the good old “you’re out of control” narrative. Fun fact: expressing anger isn’t a sign of losing control; it’s a sign of being human. What’s truly ‘too late’ is convincing me that repressing my trauma is the key to healing. Spoiler alert: it isn’t. Repressing trauma isn’t healing—it’s self-betrayal.

These people aren’t stupid or irrelevant to your cause. If they’re wishing you goodness, it’s because they see your need. However, you respond with more anger, demean them, and put them on display on social media as if they know nothing.

When people offer ‘help’ that’s actually dismissive, invalidating, or downright ignorant, I have every right to call it out. If that bruises egos, so be it. Also, ‘as if they know nothing’? Well, if the shoe fits… 😏

These people will back away and stop offering helpful words, they will just end up observing the decline unable to support you because you’re mean and volatile.

Ah, the classic “be nice or no one will help you” tactic. Newsflash: I don’t need ‘helpful words’ that are empty platitudes or thinly veiled manipulation. Real support means action, empathy, and respect—not shaming, gaslighting, or threats. If those offering little more than condescending remarks choose to back away, that’s probably for the best. Door’s that way. 👉

No one knows how you’ll respond! Interacting with you on social media is like playing Russian Roulette.

Good. And yet you couldn’t help loading the gun and pointing it to your own head with that poorly thought out anonymous comment of yours. Make that make sense please. 🤔 If people are unsure whether I’ll tolerate their nonsense or call them out for it, I’m doing something right. Unpredictability keeps abusers like you on their toes, doesn’t it? 🙂🙃

Your doctor can see, like the rest of your social media, that you’re in crisis.

Crisis? No, darling—clarity. Social media is where I document my journey, protect myself, and connect with other survivors. But tell me, are you in conversations with my doctor? The same way you were with that social worker who deserves to lose her license for breaching confidentiality and conspiring against me? Violating a patient’s trust, sharing private information without consent, and actively working to undermine someone’s well-being are not just unethical—they’re punishable offences. Enquiring minds want to know. 🤔 🤔

Your doctor doesn’t want to worsen matters with addictive drugs. Instead, they recommend “Maxeran” as possible injectable for your migraine at the ER.

Again with my doctor? Are you his wife or something? Maxeran? Been there, done that—didn’t work. I’ve responsibly used Fiorinal with codeine since 2015 (save for one single incident when I took too many pills—an incident you were well aware of, since you personally tried to help me recover my stolen phone and wallet afterward). One time does not equal addiction. Maybe brush up on my extensive medical history before making lazy suggestions since you like having your nose in my business. Mmkay?

You can take control, understanding that you’re the only one who can mitigate your body’s response to pain—psychological and physical! The cause, and the solution all lie with in YOU! 

Oh, the classic ‘pull yourself up by the bootstraps’ rhetoric. My trauma wasn’t self-inflicted, and healing isn’t a solo endeavour. But thank you for the patronising life coaching I didn’t ask for.

You need to stop wallowing in rage, which affects your hormones and increases negative symptoms. High Cortisol levels are most likely the cause of your symptoms.

“Wallowing”? Love that condescending tone. My cortisol levels aren’t your concern. Besides your outdated medical knowledge is quite the interesting clue about exactly who you are. Funny how my migraine is magically abating as call out your gaslighting and not so passive-aggressive abuse in real time. Curious, isn’t it?

Stop lashing out at those trying to help. Stop being the hurt child your mom electrocuted at six months of fetal existence (where the amniotic fluid helped protect you and your still practically non existent nervous system).

Holy sh*t. You did NOT actually go there did you? Now… this, CHRISTINE, is an extremely interesting comment. Very few people know those details about me—so far. But I did share many personal details with you when I believed you were trustworthy.

As it happens, one medical professional suggested I might be onto something. After that incident, I stopped moving for several days, and my mother believed she had killed the baby. Me.

Tell me, Christine, are you aware of any studies conducted on foetuses after 1945? Do you perhaps have access to that kind of medical literature? Enquiring minds would love to know. 🤔

And because you’re too lazy to actually do any research, I’ve done the legwork for you because honestly Christine? Your dismissive comment about fetal vulnerability during maternal electrocution is not only insensitive but also starkly misinformed. The assertion that amniotic fluid and a “practically non-existent nervous system” would shield a fetus from harm is a gross oversimplification. Let’s dissect this with evidence-based insights:

Fetal Nervous System Development:

• Early Development: The fetal nervous system begins forming as early as the third week of gestation. By the end of the first trimester, the basic structures of the brain and spinal cord are established, and neural connections continue to develop throughout pregnancy.

• Sensitivity to External Stimuli: As the nervous system matures, the fetus becomes increasingly responsive to external stimuli. Studies have shown that prenatal exposure to various environmental factors can significantly influence neural development. 

Impact of Maternal Electric Shock:

• Documented Risks: Medical literature indicates that maternal electric shock can lead to severe fetal outcomes, including spontaneous abortion, placental abruption, cardiac arrhythmias, fetal burns, and intrauterine fetal death. 

• High Fetal Mortality Rate: Data suggests a fetal mortality rate of approximately 73% following maternal electrocution, underscoring the significant risk posed to the developing fetus. 

Misconceptions About Amniotic Fluid Protection:

• While amniotic fluid provides a cushioning environment, it is not an effective barrier against electrical currents. The path of least resistance for electricity can traverse the amniotic fluid, potentially reaching the fetus and causing direct injury.

Conclusion:

Your attempt to downplay the potential harm of maternal electrocution on a developing fetus reflects a concerning lack of understanding of fetal development and the documented dangers associated with electrical injuries during pregnancy. It’s imperative to approach such sensitive topics with accurate information and empathy, rather than perpetuating harmful misconceptions.

For a more comprehensive understanding, I recommend reviewing the following sources:

• “Electric shock in pregnancy: a review” (National Library of Medicine)

• “Electric shock during pregnancy” (CFP.CA)

• “Electric shock in pregnancy” (The Journal of Emergency Medicine)

Educating oneself with credible medical literature is essential before making assertions about complex medical issues you clearly don’t have a single FUCKING clue about—with your long-expired nursing license. 😑

Realize your present and future both depend on your thoughts and actions! No one else’s. Be the adult you claim to be and understand you need to get over it.

“Get over it.” The anthem of abusers everywhere. Thank you for perfectly illustrating why I advocate so fiercely against this toxic mindset.

Who exactly is being childish here? Dismissing decades of trauma with a flippant “get over it” isn’t just callous—it’s the height of emotional immaturity. Healing from abuse isn’t a simple checkbox on a to-do list, and demanding that survivors simply “move on” reveals more about your negligence than my resilience. Perhaps next time, do your homework before preaching about adulthood.

If not, things will worsen – for yourself and your poor dog…again!

OMFG. You really went there AGAIN, didn’t you—Christine? As if you and Anna didn’t do ENOUGH damage by illegally rehoming my emotional support animals in 2021 without my consent and then defaming me with your pathetic lies—like claiming I left a dead rat at Anna’s door and that you had video evidence (which, of course, never existed). Let’s not forget how you twisted my own TikToks to use them against me. Now that the statute of limitations has passed and I can’t sue you for defamation and the emotional devastation you caused, you think you’re untouchable because you come at me under cover of anonymity?

Think again.

Threatening to take Stella Mia from me? You just handed me all the ammunition I need. Russian roulette indeed. You put the bullets in that gun, locked and loaded it, and put it to your own stupid fucking head.

Don’t worry your feeble little head about Stella—she’s more loved and cared for than you’ll ever be. Worry about your own karma. Because we all know what karma’s like… a bitch. Just like Stella. And just like you. But guess what, my darling? I’m a bigger bitch than all of you put together when you come messing with me the way you did. 🐶🙂

The court of public opinion won’t be so kind to you.

Not everyone can be wrong, and you right. When dynamics appear this way, take a step back and look at yourself.

May I suggest you take your own advice?

By the way, your mom has the right to set boundaries, considering your rage and her age. Even if she’s a narcissistic abuser, it’s in her best interest to stay away from you, given your vicious behavior on social media during crises.

Ah, so you admit she’s a narcissistic abuser. Interesting. My mother has every right to set boundaries—of course she does. It’s just funny how she rarely hesitated to bulldoze through mine. And I have every right to hold her accountable for that.

Vicious? No, I’m simply giving back as good as I got and exposing the truth. If honesty makes you uncomfortable, that’s your problem, not mine.

Also: During crises? When am I not in crisis, considering everything I’ve been through? Crisis is my default setting, babe. Maybe if people like you didn’t spend so much energy trying to actively harm me, I could finally take a breather.

That being said, dismantling your pathetic attempt at discrediting me was an absolute delight. Your “anonymous” comment was so riddled with crumbs and clues, it was almost too easy to figure out who you were—though I must admit, it was fun. You stumbled onto my blog with a rudimentary knowledge of checkers, while I learned to play chess with Holocaust survivors at age seven—something you know full well because I’m certain I told you that too.

So, my dear: I’d say this is checkmate. Wouldn’t you? 🤭

Now, may I suggest you go put on your big-girl pants and run along to cry to that asshole boyfriend of yours, Martin—you know, the one who lives just a few doors down from you?—about how “unhinged” Ilana is being again after giving you a well-deserved, metaphorical spanking all over the internet. 😑

And DO have the day you deserve. 😇

😘

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