⚠️ Trigger warning: abuse, exploitation, societal complicity.

I just found this FB post from 2021—my year of major mania (or whatever that reaction to complex post-traumatic events was)—under my #HowToSurviveNarcAbuse tag. Definitely a story for my memoir Crash, Burn, Write as a standalone vignette. ✍️

Can you believe I shared this on FB and it wasn’t moderated on that platform in its unredacted version?!! 😱🤯

At the time, I posted it alongside a meme titled “How adventurous are you?”—one of those food challenge lists where you count how many unusual things you’ve eaten. It’s got the usual suspects: haggis, tripe, foie gras, snails, squirrel, rattlesnake. And, of course, brains.

Because apparently eating veal brains makes you “adventurous.” Yeah, okay.

French people eat animal organs all the time. My maternal uncle’s wife was French. This was normal to them. They thought I was the problem when I sat there g*ging, unable to swallow, while they laughed it off. The same way they thought it was totally fine for a 14-year-old to be locked in a room with stacks of seriously questionable magazines. No issue there. But me? Not wanting to eat brains? Oh, that was outrageous.

This is how abuse gets normalized. This is how people pretend not to see what’s right in front of them.

Anyway. Here’s the post as it was posted in 2021, slightly redacted for this platform since censorship is rife everywhere.

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At 14 my maternal uncle forced me to eat veal brains and I g*gged and g*gged and that was fine by him. I was under house arrest at the time because my mum couldn’t keep me from getting in serious trouble. He kept countless stacks of “corn” magazines in the attic and he and his wife thought it was fine for my 14 year-old self to lock myself up in my bedroom with those magazines night and day. Totally no problem there. Abuse by way of serious negligence is totally “normal” in our so-called civilization. Why? 😐

Up with those magazines night & day being gr00med  to B D S M and being used as a vacant-eyed, open-mouthed [redacted] puppet. That was sexy to me. Totally no problem there. Abuse is so *normal* in our so-called civilization. Why?

Need specify my Canadian uncle. North America has a lot to answer for when it comes to normalizing oppression. Evil is NEVER necessary. That’s just another fuxking narc lie. #HowToSurviveNarcAbuse

PS: My dad… well he kept bunnies. That’s also fuxking traumatic and I’m not opening that old wound up because I’ve confronted him about it and he’s sincerely sorry. His grandfather was a kosher butcher and he thought he was doing something traditional and normal. I’ll just say I’ve never eaten rabbit since, and never will again unless I’m literally starving to death, heaven forbid. 🐰🥺😱