How Abusers Weaponize the System Against Survivors
In 2021, when I was mentally unstable, I became extremely paranoid. Not because my fears were irrational, but because they were based on lived experience.
🚨 My family has weaponized the system against me before. And now that I’ve taken my advocacy to an even bigger public stage, they won’t hesitate to do so again.
This is one of the most insidious tactics of abusers—twisting justified anger into “mental instability” to discredit, control, and silence their victims.
What’s the Difference Between Justified Anger and Mental Instability?
💥 Justified anger is a rational, measured response to injustice, abuse, and manipulation.
💀 Mental instability (in the way they try to frame it) is about losing control, being unable to function, or acting in a self-destructive or irrational way.
🚀 The problem? Narcissists and manipulators intentionally blur the line between the two to make their victims look like the problem.
How You Know Your Anger is Justified, Not “Unstable”
✅ You’re in control of your emotions – You’re not lashing out impulsively; you’re making strategic decisions.
✅ You have evidence – Your anger is based on real experiences, past abuse, and documented patterns of manipulation. You’re not imagining things; you’re proving them.
✅ You’re not harming yourself or others – You’re not acting in ways that would make you a danger to yourself or those around you.
✅ You’re making calculated moves, not emotional outbursts – You’re thinking ahead, making calls, and taking legal precautions. That’s not instability—that’s power.
How Narcissists Use the “You’re Crazy” Tactic
Manipulators and narcissists love to twist justified anger into “proof” of instability because:
1️⃣ It lets them avoid accountability – If they can make you seem “crazy,” they don’t have to address their behavior.
2️⃣ It gives them a way to silence you – If they can frame you as “unstable,” they can dismiss everything you say.
3️⃣ It gives them power – If they can make others believe you’re the problem, they maintain control over the narrative.
💀 And when they have power within the system—friends in high places, connections with law enforcement—it becomes even more dangerous.
What Happens When They Call the Police on You?
💡 Weaponizing wellness checks is one of the oldest tricks in the book.
They call the police, claim you’re suicidal, and suddenly you’re the one locked up, stripped of your autonomy, and forced to “prove” your sanity while they sit back and play the concerned party.
They know that once you’re labeled “unstable,” your words don’t carry the same weight. And that’s exactly why I’m getting ahead of it this time.
🚨 This is why I’m calling the non-emergency police line before they do.
Because when you know the game, you stop being the pawn.
Final Truth: Your Anger is Proof You’re Awake, Not Unstable.
💡 Anger is not the opposite of reason. It is the response to injustice.
🚀 I am not unstable. I am awake. I am aware. And that is what makes me dangerous to them. 🔥
P.S.: If you have an abusive family, document EVERYTHING.
Abusers rewrite history. The only way to fight back is to keep the receipts.
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