This is the email I just sent my mother after she blocked me for calling out her gaslighting and psychological abuse. She decided to frame herself as the victim. Of course she did.

As all narcissistic abusers do.

It’s the old playbook. They NEVER deviate from it.

I posted something on Facebook today, and I’m almost certain she must have seen it. A meme that said:

“When you get found out for doing the wrong thing and you then suffer the consequences of your actions, you’re still not the victim.”

And oh, how she must have hated that.

Her final words to me before blocking me like the hater she is?

“No, I am none of the horrors you wish to ascribe to me, but seeing how you seem to revel in them, I’m signing out. Apparently, the person who came visiting was just a temporary impersonation. I don’t intend to go through your displays of hatred yet again, and am signing off with no further hopes of meeting up with the person I loved but claims that I never did.”

Loved. Past tense.

Because a mother can apparently just stop loving her own daughter.

With love that toxic, who needs haters?

More chapters on my mother’s undying love for me to follow very soon.

This will be part of my memoir, Crash, Burn, Write.

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Subject: Oh no you don’t

You don’t get to rewrite history, Lucie. What about that filthy disgusting piece of trash email you sent me—that “corno-graphic” story about a father and his small daughter that you sent me when I was struggling to survive. You’re gonna tell me that was an act of maternal love?

I was supposed to just sweep all that under the rug? 

Are you f*cking kidding me?

And you’re framing yourself as the loving mother? You have the nerve to frame yourself as the victim here when you’ve put me through psychological abuse all my life? 

Are you f*cking kidding me?!? 

I’m not done with you.

You may think you’re done with me. You may think you can get away with this by blocking me but I’m not done telling my story. I’m used to you leaving me out in the cold by now. That’s just the old Lucie playbook. It’s called DARVO*. Well played Lucie. Well played. 

Me? I’m just getting started. Go tell your friends about your ungrateful daughter. Go tell them that. Keep telling yourself that. I’ve got my own life to rebuild. Deep down you know exactly what you’ve done. You just can’t stand that I can see so clearly through you too. 

I’m done playing by your rigged rules.

Done.

You hear me?

Those chapters I was holding back on writing are getting published asap. And you’ve given me every incentive not to pull a single punch. 

I’m a surgeon’s and a shohet’s great granddaughter and I will bring the truth to the page with surgical precision. 

And that is a promise I intend to keep.

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*DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. It’s a common tactic used by abusers when confronted with their actions. Instead of taking responsibility, they flip the script—denying the harm, attacking the person calling them out, and painting themselves as the real victim. Sound familiar?